Information - Our Experience
Relating to Us - communicating with us
* Terms or words that we avoid using in relation to ourselves or others: alters, personalities, pieces of you, states, fragments, aspects, system. Unless someone specifically tells us otherwise.
* We don't call ourselves a 'System'. We personally prefer the word 'Group'. It is a little warmer and friendlier than System, which, for us, sounds like a technical computer-related term.
* Individuals in our group usually use "I" when talking about themselves and use "We" while discussing our group as a whole. I rarely use "We", except in communities.
* The most polite way to ask who you're talking to: "Who's this?" or "Who am I talking to again?"
* When we aren't out to someone, we fall into the body's history and costume routine. We refer to this as 'playing Singlet', or using a Singlet persona.
* Many of us are singlets living within a Group. But we also have Group members who are smaller groups themselves or Median.
* If we had to choose a symbol to express ourselves, we personally like silhouettes of people before a doorway.
* Many of us have been inhabiting another person's body for so long, that we're accustomed to it. Of course, it's easier to be ourselves away from this body.
* We do not tell everyone that we're a group. Only online in certain places.
* We are selective about how much of our Group is public. Our journals are access-only. And other online information is shared according to level of comfort.
* Some of us have to admit to feeling more comfortable hanging out around other groups like ourselves. There's less pressure to worry about what we say or to keep up with the choices we make - such as food preferences. It's awkward if one individual claims to love a particular food and another admits to a strong dislike.
* We don't call ourselves a 'System'. We personally prefer the word 'Group'. It is a little warmer and friendlier than System, which, for us, sounds like a technical computer-related term.
* Individuals in our group usually use "I" when talking about themselves and use "We" while discussing our group as a whole. I rarely use "We", except in communities.
* The most polite way to ask who you're talking to: "Who's this?" or "Who am I talking to again?"
* When we aren't out to someone, we fall into the body's history and costume routine. We refer to this as 'playing Singlet', or using a Singlet persona.
* Many of us are singlets living within a Group. But we also have Group members who are smaller groups themselves or Median.
* If we had to choose a symbol to express ourselves, we personally like silhouettes of people before a doorway.
* Many of us have been inhabiting another person's body for so long, that we're accustomed to it. Of course, it's easier to be ourselves away from this body.
* We do not tell everyone that we're a group. Only online in certain places.
* We are selective about how much of our Group is public. Our journals are access-only. And other online information is shared according to level of comfort.
* Some of us have to admit to feeling more comfortable hanging out around other groups like ourselves. There's less pressure to worry about what we say or to keep up with the choices we make - such as food preferences. It's awkward if one individual claims to love a particular food and another admits to a strong dislike.
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