Information - Our Experience
Understanding Us -Understanding a More than One existence from our perspective
* Being a Group is like having a secret world that no one knows about. There is constant activity going on around us that only we're privy to. We always have each other as friends and family.
* Some came from within our own personal realm and many walked-in from other places. Some arrived from their own realms - media realms, or other unknown realms that they called home. Perhaps some are a split from another person. Some came to us and we aren't sure how.
* Some of the problems we've faced in this world: not honestly being able to share who we are. We can't discuss certain subjects in the way we might talk about them away from the Front because it is very different here. We can't discuss our children. All the basic complaints, I suppose.
* We usually have to hide our group identities in public. Mainly because we personally don't want to draw any attention to ourselves. We have been doing this for so long that it's become fairly easy. Yet it is still stressful and tiring. We honestly hate that we can't be ourselves. For instance, some can't discuss their children because no one on your side of the body would be able to see them.
* When someone uses the body and while around other people, it is as though we're in a 'witness protection program'. The fronter has to suddenly take on this new identity we were given and stay clear of our true selves. I'm no longer my true self, I become the body's persona: a divorced human female, with no children and living in the U.S.. That's basically all the singlet persona or the mask does for us. It is very depressing and anxiety-making to do this. It feels like we're lying and being deceitful.
* What we do if someone doubted our 'credibility'; there will always be doubters in the world. All we can do is try to explain further or try to clear up a misunderstanding. But if the doubt continues to a hurtful degree, it's best to just walk away. I'm not certain how we could prove beyond a doubt to someone that we're a group. Then again most people can't prove their gods exist either. Other than possibly writing literature of our own, I'm not certain just how necessary proving ourselves really is. I can't back up our experience as a medical professional. It would become hearsay. And at this point I'm not too worried about making others believe our existence.
* In our personal experience, we don't come out to friends or family anymore. We have been burned too many times. We've had friends who seemed very willing to accept it, they even asked a lot of questions and a couple eventually admitted that they were like us. After awhile they began to change. One refused to continue treating each of us any differently from one another. One said we must be very sick and should see a doctor right away. Another got tired of 'playing multiple' and became angry at us when we wouldn't admit to playing a game too. Another went around publicly calling us insane to anyone who would listen, even though she had 'muses' of her own who wrote in their own journals. One friend made snarky jokes about our group existence in public places that made us extremely uncomfortable.
* The most difficult part of being a Group involves needing to share one body at a same time in order to do anything here, not having our own separate bodies, not being able to be fully in control as individuals. The only way we can honestly have our own lives and make our own true choices takes place when we're back home.
* What I like most about being part of a Group is that we're able to be together in ways that Singlets may never understand. I like our closeness, our in-jokes, how we are one large family and take care of one another's children, it is easy to share problems with each other, and so many other reasons. I would prefer being part of a Group to not being one.
* Many individuals in our group are singlets, so we don't need to wonder. If we were a singlet in the sense of no longer being a group, that isn't something we wonder too hard about. Losing our friends and family would be heart-breaking.
* Many of those in our Group consider themselves singlets within our Group. There are a few here who are a group or Median as well. Some are Median - with others who share their own body. But for the most part everyone in our Group is a Singlet.
* Denial was more frequent in the past than it is now. A past Fronter was a big supporter of the belief that she created everyone as characters from her stories because she was lonely. The only problem with that, is she arrived here when this body was 19 - so who 'created' her? Some of the newer arrivals may experience denial because realizing you're inside someone else's body can be disconcerting.
* We have met several groups in person to socialize with off-line. It's been fun. We have been around other groups. It is nice to know we can be ourselves. But meeting another group for the first time is nervous-making because there's always that initial worry that maybe we're just a little too weird for someone else.
* Some in our Group tolerate alcohol at different levels. Some feel it much sooner than others. If this body is slightly drunk while one person is Fronting, another could Front and cause the effects to dissipate; at least mentally. This has happened to us several times.
* A More than One Awareness day would be nice. But I'm not sure how comfortable I'd feel randomly meeting others. I also wouldn't want to be around the weirdly curious.
* Our way of letting 'media' know we're here and not trauma-based is by keeping a website and moderating a Plurality forum.
* LeAnne: If I could create a Plural TV show, I'd have the show be in 2 places. One would be where the body lives and the other would be where the Fronters live when they're not in the body; like their real homes. That'd be cool.
* For Plurals who are in 'talk therapy for a lifetime', I hope they are receiving the help they need. But I also hope they aren't being forced to believe they are ill if they don't feel they are.
* Some came from within our own personal realm and many walked-in from other places. Some arrived from their own realms - media realms, or other unknown realms that they called home. Perhaps some are a split from another person. Some came to us and we aren't sure how.
* Some of the problems we've faced in this world: not honestly being able to share who we are. We can't discuss certain subjects in the way we might talk about them away from the Front because it is very different here. We can't discuss our children. All the basic complaints, I suppose.
* We usually have to hide our group identities in public. Mainly because we personally don't want to draw any attention to ourselves. We have been doing this for so long that it's become fairly easy. Yet it is still stressful and tiring. We honestly hate that we can't be ourselves. For instance, some can't discuss their children because no one on your side of the body would be able to see them.
* When someone uses the body and while around other people, it is as though we're in a 'witness protection program'. The fronter has to suddenly take on this new identity we were given and stay clear of our true selves. I'm no longer my true self, I become the body's persona: a divorced human female, with no children and living in the U.S.. That's basically all the singlet persona or the mask does for us. It is very depressing and anxiety-making to do this. It feels like we're lying and being deceitful.
* What we do if someone doubted our 'credibility'; there will always be doubters in the world. All we can do is try to explain further or try to clear up a misunderstanding. But if the doubt continues to a hurtful degree, it's best to just walk away. I'm not certain how we could prove beyond a doubt to someone that we're a group. Then again most people can't prove their gods exist either. Other than possibly writing literature of our own, I'm not certain just how necessary proving ourselves really is. I can't back up our experience as a medical professional. It would become hearsay. And at this point I'm not too worried about making others believe our existence.
* In our personal experience, we don't come out to friends or family anymore. We have been burned too many times. We've had friends who seemed very willing to accept it, they even asked a lot of questions and a couple eventually admitted that they were like us. After awhile they began to change. One refused to continue treating each of us any differently from one another. One said we must be very sick and should see a doctor right away. Another got tired of 'playing multiple' and became angry at us when we wouldn't admit to playing a game too. Another went around publicly calling us insane to anyone who would listen, even though she had 'muses' of her own who wrote in their own journals. One friend made snarky jokes about our group existence in public places that made us extremely uncomfortable.
* The most difficult part of being a Group involves needing to share one body at a same time in order to do anything here, not having our own separate bodies, not being able to be fully in control as individuals. The only way we can honestly have our own lives and make our own true choices takes place when we're back home.
* What I like most about being part of a Group is that we're able to be together in ways that Singlets may never understand. I like our closeness, our in-jokes, how we are one large family and take care of one another's children, it is easy to share problems with each other, and so many other reasons. I would prefer being part of a Group to not being one.
* Many individuals in our group are singlets, so we don't need to wonder. If we were a singlet in the sense of no longer being a group, that isn't something we wonder too hard about. Losing our friends and family would be heart-breaking.
* Many of those in our Group consider themselves singlets within our Group. There are a few here who are a group or Median as well. Some are Median - with others who share their own body. But for the most part everyone in our Group is a Singlet.
* Denial was more frequent in the past than it is now. A past Fronter was a big supporter of the belief that she created everyone as characters from her stories because she was lonely. The only problem with that, is she arrived here when this body was 19 - so who 'created' her? Some of the newer arrivals may experience denial because realizing you're inside someone else's body can be disconcerting.
* We have met several groups in person to socialize with off-line. It's been fun. We have been around other groups. It is nice to know we can be ourselves. But meeting another group for the first time is nervous-making because there's always that initial worry that maybe we're just a little too weird for someone else.
* Some in our Group tolerate alcohol at different levels. Some feel it much sooner than others. If this body is slightly drunk while one person is Fronting, another could Front and cause the effects to dissipate; at least mentally. This has happened to us several times.
* A More than One Awareness day would be nice. But I'm not sure how comfortable I'd feel randomly meeting others. I also wouldn't want to be around the weirdly curious.
* Our way of letting 'media' know we're here and not trauma-based is by keeping a website and moderating a Plurality forum.
* LeAnne: If I could create a Plural TV show, I'd have the show be in 2 places. One would be where the body lives and the other would be where the Fronters live when they're not in the body; like their real homes. That'd be cool.
* For Plurals who are in 'talk therapy for a lifetime', I hope they are receiving the help they need. But I also hope they aren't being forced to believe they are ill if they don't feel they are.
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