Information - Our Experience
Emotional & Physical Health - Health related issues in our Group
* It can be stressful mentally on those who are in the body. Using a body that isn't yours and pretending to be someone you're not (the body's identity) creates insomnia, anxiety and stress on most of the people who use it; especially in public. Dealing with that much stress can lead to physical ailments.
* Sleeping schedules/issues are one of the areas that no one person has complete control of in our group. The person waking up in this body may not be the same person who fell asleep here. It usually takes a few seconds for someone to realize where they may be, especially if they were in their own bed when they went to sleep, and are now in our bedroom here when they wake up. It can also be a little frustrating when one person is trying to sleep in the body and there are several others awake and talking to each other nearby. Usually a 'shush' at them a few times and they'll find a different room to chatter in. There are a few people here who have their own schedules that may include being up for 3 or 4 days in a row and then sleeping. I personally like skipping a night every few days. It's common with us for the 2 or 3 individuals nearby to share a dream if they are sleeping beside one another.
* Some downsides to the different sleeping arrangements:
- the body being tired when a group member is not
- a group member pushing the body too hard because they aren't tired themselves
* Our partner group is accustomed to different people coming around during the night, because it is usually the same for them.
* A few in our group have difficulties with anxiety that stem from issues resulting from emotional abuse or being part of a group. The group difficulties are: worrying over pretending to become the body's identity in public, worry over lying in order to maintain a Singlet identity around others. There are also issues that some of us as individuals have had happen to us personally (outside of the body's history) that just would not be OK to discuss without someone seeing it as delusional anyway. That would defeat the purpose wouldn't it?
* I suppose what I'd like in a therapist is someone who is well-versed in the many types of group existences, who won't force book-integration on someone if they're not interested, who understands 'inner worlds' and personal histories that are outside of the body's history, and can help someone with body-use issues in public around people who don't understand a more than one existence. Yes, I know it's probably a dream that may never happen. But it sure would be nice to talk to someone considered a professional who is accepting and can become aware of that knowledge so the basic issues like anxiety can be dealt with honestly.
* So far we haven't experienced a group member's allergy as triggering a reaction with the body, except in very mild ways. This depends on the person. Luckily, there currently aren't many individuals around with allergies. There are times when an allergy is carried with them while they are here. But, usually they only need to be aware of the body's allergies.
* People in our group dislike when this body is sick. Sometimes we try to take turns so someone can have a break. Other times, it's possible that a person may become stuck while the body is sick.
* Anxiety is one of our biggest issues. We try to find people who are better at handling certain situations than others.
* When the body is hurt, we'll only feel it while within the body. Once the person leaves - the injury will not follow them. Unless they were the one bringing it to the body in the first place.
* There are many in our group who have their own memories and lived through their own lives in places this body never was. As a result their own histories are different and their responses are as well. They have depression, C-PTSD, anxiety and anything else as a result in order to deal with what they may have been through. This body deals with anxiety disorders and depression. For some group members these are greater while they are here and it is less for others.
* Sleeping schedules/issues are one of the areas that no one person has complete control of in our group. The person waking up in this body may not be the same person who fell asleep here. It usually takes a few seconds for someone to realize where they may be, especially if they were in their own bed when they went to sleep, and are now in our bedroom here when they wake up. It can also be a little frustrating when one person is trying to sleep in the body and there are several others awake and talking to each other nearby. Usually a 'shush' at them a few times and they'll find a different room to chatter in. There are a few people here who have their own schedules that may include being up for 3 or 4 days in a row and then sleeping. I personally like skipping a night every few days. It's common with us for the 2 or 3 individuals nearby to share a dream if they are sleeping beside one another.
* Some downsides to the different sleeping arrangements:
- the body being tired when a group member is not
- a group member pushing the body too hard because they aren't tired themselves
* Our partner group is accustomed to different people coming around during the night, because it is usually the same for them.
* A few in our group have difficulties with anxiety that stem from issues resulting from emotional abuse or being part of a group. The group difficulties are: worrying over pretending to become the body's identity in public, worry over lying in order to maintain a Singlet identity around others. There are also issues that some of us as individuals have had happen to us personally (outside of the body's history) that just would not be OK to discuss without someone seeing it as delusional anyway. That would defeat the purpose wouldn't it?
* I suppose what I'd like in a therapist is someone who is well-versed in the many types of group existences, who won't force book-integration on someone if they're not interested, who understands 'inner worlds' and personal histories that are outside of the body's history, and can help someone with body-use issues in public around people who don't understand a more than one existence. Yes, I know it's probably a dream that may never happen. But it sure would be nice to talk to someone considered a professional who is accepting and can become aware of that knowledge so the basic issues like anxiety can be dealt with honestly.
* So far we haven't experienced a group member's allergy as triggering a reaction with the body, except in very mild ways. This depends on the person. Luckily, there currently aren't many individuals around with allergies. There are times when an allergy is carried with them while they are here. But, usually they only need to be aware of the body's allergies.
* People in our group dislike when this body is sick. Sometimes we try to take turns so someone can have a break. Other times, it's possible that a person may become stuck while the body is sick.
* Anxiety is one of our biggest issues. We try to find people who are better at handling certain situations than others.
* When the body is hurt, we'll only feel it while within the body. Once the person leaves - the injury will not follow them. Unless they were the one bringing it to the body in the first place.
* There are many in our group who have their own memories and lived through their own lives in places this body never was. As a result their own histories are different and their responses are as well. They have depression, C-PTSD, anxiety and anything else as a result in order to deal with what they may have been through. This body deals with anxiety disorders and depression. For some group members these are greater while they are here and it is less for others.
Memories & Shared Thoughts - Our Group's memory structure
* There is a common knowledge memo board where body history is kept. Someone can glance at this to see the social security number and other important information they may not know. Personal individual history is only within that individual's mind and won't be known by others unless they choose to share it. Some activities taken place while within the body may not be known to someone else as well.
* If someone says they had a certain experience that another doesn't have or that is different that the body's history, they will not be told its a false memory. Because it isn't. Their memories are considered to be valid.
* We are aware of one another. We are not sharing our minds. Individuals don't usually know everything about everyone else here.
* It is possible to remember activities others in our group do. Especially if someone is around them when an event happens. But if they are very far away from each other, they won't have any idea what they are doing. While back at home, someone may be aware when another person is stressed or upset. Otherwise, they probably won't know entirely what went on unless someone tells them.
* Sometimes a person may remember their dreams and other times they won't. There are times when someone has seen another person's dreams in our Group if they sleep nearby. A way to know if the dream was shared; asking about the dream. Or if someone else shares their dream and it sounds similar, then obviously it was shared.
* It's possible and the norm for people in our group to think different thoughts at the same time. Wouldn't your co-workers or fellow students each have their own separate thoughts at different times? That's how it is for us. Unless obviously during a discussion that many are taking part of at the same time.
* There are pros and cons to having and not having a shared 'memory pool'. Since our group does not have a shared memory pool, I'll focus on that perspective.
Pros to not having a shared memory pool:
1. Everyone has a little more privacy with their own thoughts
2. You can actually keep a secret or surprise someone
3. You are not randomly flooded with the thoughts and experiences of someone else
4. Having an easier time discerning who experienced which event
Cons to not having a shared memory pool:
1. Reading a book here isn't automatically shared with everyone else
2. When an event happens you actually have tell someone or leave a message in order for them to know about it
3. New arrivals don't receive an info-dump on the body's history. They have to read about it (or be told) in order to know.
4. It can be difficult to know where everyone is at any given time (back in our Realm)
5. Confusion over just which person's experience you are remembering
* Those a few I can think of right now. And there are variations, such as being more connected to family members and some people are empaths/telepaths. As for creating a shared memory pool for ourselves, I honestly don't see how we could do this. Since everyone is separate, I wouldn't know how to 'merge' their memories into one location. It would be like sitting in a classroom at school and trying to figure out how to merge all their memories into one memory pool. How would that be done? So if you were able to find a balance between separating a little bit, but maintaining a shared space... perhaps, that would be optimal? I wouldn't know how this is done though. I do see benefits to having some shared and some separate. Then perhaps you wouldn't feel as though you were quite a 'hive mind'.
* If someone says they had a certain experience that another doesn't have or that is different that the body's history, they will not be told its a false memory. Because it isn't. Their memories are considered to be valid.
* We are aware of one another. We are not sharing our minds. Individuals don't usually know everything about everyone else here.
* It is possible to remember activities others in our group do. Especially if someone is around them when an event happens. But if they are very far away from each other, they won't have any idea what they are doing. While back at home, someone may be aware when another person is stressed or upset. Otherwise, they probably won't know entirely what went on unless someone tells them.
* Sometimes a person may remember their dreams and other times they won't. There are times when someone has seen another person's dreams in our Group if they sleep nearby. A way to know if the dream was shared; asking about the dream. Or if someone else shares their dream and it sounds similar, then obviously it was shared.
* It's possible and the norm for people in our group to think different thoughts at the same time. Wouldn't your co-workers or fellow students each have their own separate thoughts at different times? That's how it is for us. Unless obviously during a discussion that many are taking part of at the same time.
* There are pros and cons to having and not having a shared 'memory pool'. Since our group does not have a shared memory pool, I'll focus on that perspective.
Pros to not having a shared memory pool:
1. Everyone has a little more privacy with their own thoughts
2. You can actually keep a secret or surprise someone
3. You are not randomly flooded with the thoughts and experiences of someone else
4. Having an easier time discerning who experienced which event
Cons to not having a shared memory pool:
1. Reading a book here isn't automatically shared with everyone else
2. When an event happens you actually have tell someone or leave a message in order for them to know about it
3. New arrivals don't receive an info-dump on the body's history. They have to read about it (or be told) in order to know.
4. It can be difficult to know where everyone is at any given time (back in our Realm)
5. Confusion over just which person's experience you are remembering
* Those a few I can think of right now. And there are variations, such as being more connected to family members and some people are empaths/telepaths. As for creating a shared memory pool for ourselves, I honestly don't see how we could do this. Since everyone is separate, I wouldn't know how to 'merge' their memories into one location. It would be like sitting in a classroom at school and trying to figure out how to merge all their memories into one memory pool. How would that be done? So if you were able to find a balance between separating a little bit, but maintaining a shared space... perhaps, that would be optimal? I wouldn't know how this is done though. I do see benefits to having some shared and some separate. Then perhaps you wouldn't feel as though you were quite a 'hive mind'.
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